Jim Member of the Law Practice Management Section

Jim Siemens is a member of the Law Practice Management Section of the North Carolina State Bar Association.  The section is devoted to supporting lawyers throughout the State in the delivery of legal services efficiently, professionally and ethically.  One of the functions of the section is to provide continuing legal education to young lawyers throughout the State, interested in establishing legal practices.  As law schools and law school graduates in North Carolina proliferate, more and more young lawyers are electing to begin solo and small practices.  The Law Practice Management Section can support these lawyers, ensuring the delivery of quality legal services to North Carolinians.  Jim is proud to support the efforts of the Law Practice Management Section.  Jim guides the Siemens Family Law Group in the delivery of legal services with the goal of providing efficient, effective, quality legal services to clients.

Alimony Denied

If you are a dependent spouse who is contemplating separation, North Carolina law sets a clear guideline to preserve your right to alimony:  do not engage in any sexual activity outside the marriage until you are separated.  If you do, or even put yourself in an ambiguous situation, you will damage yourself substantially.

North Carolina law provides that alimony shall not be awarded if the dependent spouse case engaged in “illicit sexual behavior” prior to separation.   N.C. Gen. Stat. §50-16.1A(3)a.     In the recent case of Romulus v. Romulus, the Court of Appeals applied this statute to bar alimony to a dependent spouse who had two ambiguous sexual encounters prior to her separation.

The Romulus boyfriend testified that, on two occasions, he either penetrated the dependent spouse with his finger, or touched her with his penis, but did not have intercourse because he was impotent.

The trial court and the Court of Appeals held that the boyfriend’s testimony established that the dependent spouse had engaged in illicit sexual behavior, and thus was barred from receiving alimony.  Even more, the Court held that, because the testimony established both sexual “inclination” and “opportunity” on her part, the dependent spouse could be presumed to have engaged in sexual intercourse.

Although the dependent spouse’s conduct in Romulus was ambiguous, North Carolina law and the Court’s application of  that law were not.  To preserve the  right to alimony, dependent spouses must not engage in any sexual conduct with outside parties prior to separation, and must avoid situations that could be characterized as demonstrating sexual inclination and opportunity.

Are You Really Married?

Most married couples never question the legal validity of their marriage, and most have no reason to.  Those who chose non-traditional forms of solemnizing their marriage, though, might want to take a closer look.

For a marriage to be valid under current North Carolina law, the parties must express their intent to marry either (1) in the presence of an ordained minister of any religious denomination, a minister authorized by a church, or a magistrate, and with the consequent declaration by the minister or magistrate that the persons are husband and wife; or (2) in accordance with any mode of solemnization recognized by any religious denomination, or federally or State recognized Indian Nation or Tribe.  N. C. Gen. Stat. §51-1.1.

The current marriage statute is substantially more liberal than in years past because it accepts the validity of Native American ceremonies and any religious denomination.  Nonetheless, it retains its emphasis on the presence of a minister or magistrate.  Couples who were married by people whose credentials as a minister were questionable have, in turn, had the validity of their marriage questioned.

For example, in Pickard v. Pickard, 176 N.C. App. 193 (2006), the parties were married by an officiant who had paid $10 to become a minister of the Universal Life Church, and who had performed only one marriage ceremony – the one being questioned.  The trial court found that the officiant was not a minister and, therefore, the marriage was not valid.

Similarly, the statutory expansion to recognize Native American ceremonies did not occur until 2001, and couples who were married by such ceremonies prior to that date might find the validity of the marriage questioned for purposes of determining alimony and other marital obligations.

Most marriages occur in recognized religious institutions or ceremonies and are unquestionably valid.  Those who choose alternative means of solemnizing their marriage should ensure that their ceremony is officiated by a person recognized by North Carolina law to declare them married.

Buncombe County Family Court Changes

The Buncombe County Family Court and Offices have moved to the third floor of the Courthouse in reasonably renovated space.  The Family Court offices are accessible, functional and seem comfortable for the Family Court case managers.  There are 2 new courtrooms on this floor which are equally comfortable and functional.

The Family Court bench has changed as well.  The Honorable Ward D. Scott, Andrea F. Dray and Rebecca B. Knight now preside exclusively in Family Court.  Judge Julie M. Kepple, who began her career as a District Court Judge in Family Court, is now handling criminal matters primarily.

Conference space for lawyers and clients remains inadequate on the 3rd floor in our view.  There are also no wireless signals available in the Buncombe County courthouse.  We typically solve these deficiencies by meeting with clients on the 10th floor of the courthouse in library conference rooms.  We bring our PCs and portable printer in order to deliver services that are not otherwise readily available in the building.

We continue to support the efforts of the Family Court program and believe it is the right paradigm.  We appreciate the hard work of the Family Court case managers and staff.  And we appreciate the dedication, competence and patience demonstrated by the Family Court bench and clerks on a daily basis.

Katie Recognized by Pisgah Legal Services

Pisgah Legal Services is our local, amazingly productive and effective, legal non-profit organization.  Although there is little time to spare between this busy private practice and the family, putting some time in for people in this community who would not otherwise have access to representation is truly important.  Thanks for the kudos PLS!  Straight from the Fall 2011 Newsletter:

The MAVL Volunteer of the Month of September is Katie Fisher.   Katie practices primarily family law and some estate planning services at Siemens Law Office, P.A.  Prior to working at Siemens Law Office, Katie worked at Pisgah Legal Services for five years on the domestic violence team.

Katie volunteers for the MAVL program because she, “know[s] how great the need for legal services is in our community, having been on the front lines for a good amount of time.  I also know that the numbers of people needing legal assistance continues to rise and staff attorneys have to make tough decisions and turn people down all the time.  If I can help out by applying a skill I have and ensuring that a family can move on with a little more stability, then I’m still helping PLS in its mission to improve this community, which remains important to me out here in the private practice world.”

As a small token of our appreciation for her contributions to the MAVL program, we are giving Katie a $50 gift certificate donated by Laughing Seed Cafe.

Choosing a Divorce Lawyer in Asheville

How to Choose a Divorce Laywer

http://www.ashevilledivorcelawyer.com The divorce process is life changing, high stress and of serious consequence to you and your loved ones. Finding the right divorce lawyer at the outset is critical to the outcome. This piece provides an insiders guide to choosing a divorce lawyer in Asheville, N.C.. With a practice devoted to Family Law, the lawyers at Siemens Law Office, P.A. have the focus and expertise to help you navigate complex legal systems and to counsel you at critical junctures in your case.

For more information please visit Siemens Law Office, P.A

Updates to the 2011 N.C. Child Support Guidelines

Federal law requires that states receiving some federal public assistance and child support enforcement programs establish child support guidelines.  North Carolina receives both, and has therefore established the North Carolina Child Support Guidelines the Guidelines).  Federal law also requires that the Guidelines be reviewed and updated every four years to reflect economic growth, or lack of growth as we are currently experiencing, and what that means as far as the cost of raising a child.  Periodic review of the procedure behind using the Guidelines is a useful chance to smooth any wrinkles and speed bumps the previous version may have revealed.  From December 31, 2005 until December 31, 2010, we all worked with (and deviated from) the 2006 Guidelines.  As of January 1, 2011, the 2011 Guidelines apply.

For a look at the new Guidelines, including the parts that don’t involve the numbers,  click here.

So what’s new since 2006?  Here is a brief, 8 item list of substantive changes in 2011.

1.  Child Support in Domestic Violence Cases.  The Guidelines are now presumed to apply in all cases when child support is ordered as a remedy in Domestic Violence Orders of Protection (i.e., 50Bs, restraining orders).

2.  Retroactive Child Support. As was stated in the 2006 Guidelines, a trial court may still consider whether ordering a non-custodial parent to pay retroactive child support (i.e., “back support”) is appropriate and then figure out how much it should be.  There are two clarifications to this principle: (1) Based on a case that came through the Court of Appeals in 2009, the Guidelines now have an added rule that when any award of retroactive child support is made in a situation where the parents had a valid and unincorporated separation agreement setting the payment amount, the award must be calculated to match the agreed upon amount.  And, (2) when a court decides that retroactive support is appropriate, it has to calculate the amount based on the Guidelines that were in effect at the time and based on the salaries of the parties at the time.  In other words, if a party gets child support for the calendar years 2005 to present, the calculation of the amount owed prior to January 1, 2011 will be done with the 2006 guidelines and old pay records.

3.  High Income Parents and Low Income Parents. As in the 2006 Guidelines, the 2011 Guidelines apply to parties with combined monthly gross incomes of no more than $25,000.00 per month.  At $25,001.00 and up, it is considered to be a high income case, and a court is to set an amount of support based on the actual needs of the child.  The 2011 Guidelines simply clarify the 2006 rule with the actual wording of the statute: “…the court should set support in such amount as to meet the reasonable needs of the child for health, education, and maintenance, having due regard to the estates, earnings, conditions, accustomed standard of liv­ing of the child and the parties, the child care and homemaker contributions of each party, and other facts of the particular case.” (N.C.G.S. §50-13.4(c)).  For low income parents, the Guidelines have historically allowed an obligated parent to reserve a certain amount of income in order to ensure that he or she can cover their own basic expenses before paying child support to the other parent.  Application of the guidelines in these cases can be complicated, and a full discussion is not within the scope of this update.  Essentially however, the 2001 Guidelines allow the low income obligor to reserve $902.50 per month, and a minimum payment in the amount of $50.00 will be set for those who have an adjusted gross income of $999.00 or less.

4. Income in general. There are three areas of discussion regarding the definition of income for purposes of calculating child support.  First, based on a case decided by the Court of Appeals in 2008, the 2011 Guidelines specifically state that income received as child support for another child in the custodial parent’s household is NOT to be included as income.  Next, although the Guidelines have historically excluded most benefit payouts from being considered as “income”, the 2011 Guidelines get more specific and list the public benefits that are to be excluded.  Third, the 2001 Guidelines exclude from addition to a party’s income any payments made by an employer on an employee-parent’s behalf, directly to a third party.  For example, if my ex-husband’s boss pays for a disability insurance policy on his behalf, but does it outside of his paycheck and directly to the policy administrator, I can’t call the amount the boss pays to the policy administrator income.

5. Social Security. No real changes here, except for clarification of when a retired or disabled parent must continue to meet his/her child support payments.  If a child receives social security benefits because one parent has become disabled or has retired, and those benefits are more than the amount the disabled or retired parent would have to pay when the guidelines are applied, the obligation of the disabled or retired parent pays nothing.

6.  Preexisting Child Support Obligations. Under the Guidelines, a parent may deduct from his/her income any amount paid as child support for another child.  As of 2011, however, that deduction does not include payments made toward arrears on the obligation to that other child.

7.  Child Care Expenses. The 2011 guidelines clarify that child care costs incurred for purposes other than employment are not added to the calculation of child support.  These child care costs may be counted, however, if the parent who wants to count them has filed a motion to deviate from the Guidelines, and the Court finds the deviation appropriate.

8.  The Schedule. The “Schedule” is the numbers portion of the Guidelines.  It is a table that shows, based on the combined gross income of the parents with all credits and deductions, what economists assert is the cost of raising a child in 2011.  The most notable differences between the 2006 Guidelines and this current version is that low income families will not see as much of an increase in the child rearing costs as the number of children increases.  For higher income families, it appears that there is a greater increase in child rearing costs as the number of children increases.  The Schedule of Basic Support Obligations contained in the 2011 Guidelines can be viewed directly, beginning on page 7 of 18, by clicking here.

Family Court in Asheville 2011

Happy New Year!  For divorce lawyers practicing family law in Asheville, 2011 promises to be an exciting year.  With the retirement of Chief District Court Judge Gary Cash, and the metriculation of the Honorable Marvin P. Pope Jr. to the Superior Court bench, two vacancies have occurred in the Buncombe County Family Court.

The Honorable Julie M.  Kepple was sworn in on New Years Day and has taken the seat vacated by Judge Cash.  An appointment is anticipated by the Governor’s office this month to fill the vacancy left by Judge Pope.  Presently, The Honorable Dennis J. Redwing, from Gastonia, is sitting in Judge Pope’s seat, pending the Governor’s appointment.

We at Siemens Law Office are confident that the same consistent, credible approach to advocacy, well grounded in the law and the facts of each case, which has served our clients  in the past, will continue to serve our clients well in 2011.  We welcome the new jurists and wish them well.

Q & A for Paralegals and the Public

From a paralegal continuing legal education seminar presentation by Jim Siemens September 24, 2010:

What is abandonment?  Termination of the marital relationship without justification, without the consent of the other spouse, and without the intent of renewing the marriage.

How is separation defined in North Carolina?  Must be more than discontinuance of sexual relationship and implies living apart such that the community can see that the parties are no longer living together.  One party must have the intent to remain separate and apart.  Even after physical separation, if intent can’t be discerned, the parties may not be separated.

What constitutes reconciliation?  Resumption of the marital relationship.  Isolated incidents of sex post separation are not enough to constitute reconciliation.

What rights do parents have to custody in North Carolina?  Parents have the paramount constitutional right to custody in North Carolina.  There is a grandparent visitation statute but the relief grandparents have is limited and in an intact family, grandparents have no right to seek visitation.  Parents can abrogate their constitutional rights by acting inconsistently with those rights.

What rights do third parties have to custody in North Carolina?  Third parties can seek custody when parents are not available or when the parents have abrogated their constitutional rights by being unfit, or acting inconsistently with their rights as parents.

What discretion does the District Court have over custody decisions in North Carolina?  The Court is guided by the best interest standard which is the polar star of the custody inquiry.  However, before third parties can argue best interest, they must overcome the paramount constitutional rights of parents.

Would marital misconduct be relevant in an equitable distribution trial?  Marital misconduct is not relevant to equitable distribution in North Carolina.  However, the use of marital funds during and after the marriage may be relevant.

Would marital misconduct be relevant in a hearing on post separation support?  Only if the supporting spouse wishes to raise marital misconduct as a defense to paying support.  The supporting spouse controls the inquiry into fault in a post separation support hearing.

Would marital misconduct be relevant in a hearing on alimony?  Yes, and abandonment is a form of marital misconduct.

How are these forms of support determined in North Carolina?  Amount and duration of alimony in North Carolina are discretionary, though the Court is guided by factors listed at NCGS 50-16.3A.  Spousal support is to be determined with consideration of the income and earnings of the supporting spouse, and need of the dependent spouse.

How is child support determined in North Carolina?  Child support guidelines are typically used to determine child support, based upon an income shares model.  Guidelines are expected to change in October of 2011.  There is a growing body of case law suggesting that parties can contract to provide for the reasonable needs of their children.

Domestic Violence Protective Orders

Domestic Violence Protective Order

Domestic Violence consists of a pattern of behavior that one person uses to control another person with whom they have a relationship.  We are sensitive to the fact that in some situations, simple separation is not an available option without first considering the health and safety of all parties who are likely to be affected by it.  The purpose of this blog entry is to discuss an initial civil legal remedy available to individuals seeking to protect themselves and their children as they leave an abusive relationship.  If you believe you are involved in an abusive relationship, or are concerned about a friend in this situation, contact the local domestic violence protection agency (in Buncombe County, Helpmate, (828) 254-2968; elsewhere, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, (800)799-SAFE).


Although being party to an abusive relationship generally means that there is a pattern of behavior present on the part of the abuser, a single act as described by N.C.G.S §50B can be grounds for a protective order (also known as “restraining order” or “50B”).  An act of “domestic violence” can be:

  • an attempt to cause bodily injury; or
  •  intentionally (not accidentally) causing bodily injury; or
  • otherwise  placing you or a member of your family or household in fear of imminent serious bodily injury; or
  • committing an act of sexual abuse; or
  •  continued harassment which has the purpose of intimidating or tormenting and rises to such a level as to inflict substantial emotional distress.


A Domestic Violence Protective Order is a restraining order which is designed to prevent an abuser from being violent toward you again, usually by ordering that they not assault, threaten, abuse, follow, harass, or even contact you.

A Domestic Violence Protective Order is different from a criminal warrant or a restraining order that a judge might have given you at a criminal court hearing.  This is a civil action that is designed to protect you from further acts of domestic violence by your abuser.  Your abuser will not be sent to jail just because you have a 50B order.  However, once you have a 50B, an abuser may be arrested for violating it.

This restraining order is NOT an action for custody, divorce, or dividing marital property, although each of these issues can be addressed, on a temporary basis, in the restraining order.  A Domestic Violence Protective Order should only be used as a way of protecting you or your children from domestic violence.


A 50B usually orders the abuser to stay away from and to not assault, threaten, abuse, follow, or harass the victim and her children.  A judge, at his or her discretion, can also give you any of the following additional emergency assistance if he or she believes it will help protect you and/or your children from further violence:

  •   Grant possession of the residence or household and exclude the abuser from the residence or household.
  •  Require an abuser to provide a spouse and his or her children suitable alternate housing.
  •  Award temporary custody of minor children and establish temporary safe housing.
  • Award temporary custody of minor children and establish a temporary safe visitation plan.
  •  Order the eviction of the abuser from the residence and order assistance to the victim returning to the home.
  •  Order an abuser to make child support payments.
  •  Order an abuser to make spousal support payments.
  •  Provide for possession of personal property of the parties (such as the more reliable car).
  • Order the abuser to refrain from doing any or all of the following:
  1. Threatening, abusing, or following the other party;
  2.  Harassing the other party, including by telephone, visiting the home or workplace, or other means
  3.  Interfering with the other party
  • Order the abuser to stay away from the victim’s school and places where the children live or go to daycare or school.
  • Award either party court costs and attorney’s fees.
  • Order the abuser not to possess or purchase any firearms for a time fixed in the order.
  • Order the abuser to attend and complete an abuser treatment program.
  • Include any additional prohibitions or requirements the court believes are necessary to protect any victim or any minor child.

A judge is not required to give any or all of the relief listed above.  In Buncombe County, economic remedies are rarely awarded.  If the judge does award any of the things listed above such as custody or possession of the house, it is only temporary and will expire when the order expires.  Bear in mind, however, that with a protective order in place, other civil actions are available to help you resolve the common issues to divorce.